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CatdaBrat
Dec 24, 2006, 09:01 AM
Every year I feel that the general observance of the Christmas holiday is getting further and further away from something spiritual and more and more commercial and negative. I find myself pulling away from most of it, although I still am sorta locked into many of the traditions.

So many people sigh with exasperation and say they dread the season because of all the obligations, shopping, expenses, etc. It's like, "Oh, no! Not Christmas already!" They feel overwhelmed by expectations and then frustrated because they just can't manage to meet them all without a lot of stress.

I know that many people enjoy the hectic preparations, and up to a point, so do I. But as I remain observant, I keep seeing signs that our traditional ways of celebraating Christmas have just become "too much."

Take yesterday as an example. I had to go to River Park shopping center in Frez-hole to pick up some books I had printed and bound at OfficeMax. Blackstone was a snarl of traffic, just about gridlock. Every left-turn lane was loaded to the gills with hopeful drivers trying to find an opportunity to make their turns, with little success.

When I finally limped into the parking area, I did not see a single parking space anywhere. Finally found 2 or 3 off toward a far end. It wasn't the amount of vehicles that bothered me, it was the attitudes of the drivers. People were very rude and impatient, and it was like a battle zone. I wouldn't be surprised if there had even been arrests made.

There were cops and security all over trying to direct the parking lot traffic, because leaving it up to common courtesy and "rules of the road" was impossible. People cut each other off, shouted at each other, flipped "the bird," honked horns, threatened each other with their cars, you-name-it.

You could not even do a simple thing like back your car out of your parking space, to leave, without people behind you getting furious because they had to stop and wait 20 seconds. What bizarre method of reasoning do people like that follow? Like I am supposed to just sit there all day and night and not ever leave because somebody might have to stop and wait a few seconds? Oh, my mistake!

My point is that I bet almost every one of those people in the "mob" were there to do Christmas shopping and they probably enjoy listening to carols and singing "peace on earth and goodwill to all men." They probably do not even know what the words mean, as there was no evidence of Christmas spirit or peace or goodwill anywhere I looked yesterday. Even driving, I was almost run off the road by someone who passed another car, and if they had waited just 2 seconds, there wouldn't have been a need for me to dive for the ditch to avoid a head-on.

Yeah, I am sure lots of people were there yesterday and were fortunate enough to not have experienced any of this, but lucky me, I did.

I am going to reclaim some of that peace and goodwill and every year I am going to let go of more and more of the stress, the obligations, the expenses, the hassles, the frustrations, etc. People will think I am a Grinch, they will think I am a cheapskate, or lazy or whatever, but that is fine. I think Christmas needs a huge readjustment. If you think so, too, step aboard the train of change. I am not going to accept what the season has become.

Dodgergirl
Dec 24, 2006, 09:20 AM
I've been slowly changing my habits since I moved to this mountain. Long gone are the expectations & worries associated with the Holidays. I was tired of being a phony and doing everything for everyone. It's so much more peaceful now.

I've been in Fresno the past two days, visiting a hospital (taking those incredible nurses in pediatric ICU a tray of goodies), a train station (dropping off) & the airport(picking up). Then shopping at the Costco, Riverpark & a few specialty stores. I consider myself lucky & blessed to have spent the days shopping with different people who mean so much to me. we laughed, had a meal, shopped and had no expectations of time.

All in all, I spent about 10 hours in the city, spending about $20. for each hour there. Not much considering, so I'm happy I've kept to my original plan, (a plan set before recent events in my life).

Holiday Highlights so far?

Friday night I played under my daughters Christmas tree with my grandson and his train I got him. I taught him his uncles "godzilla" game. My son in law appreciates that... http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/laugh.gif
That time is totally irreplaceable and was the most fun I've had in a long time.

A quiet dinner with friends, spent not impressing and BSing, but laughing and connecting on a level most people can't even fathom.

Sharing lunch with my daughter in Bakers square & watching the look on her face when I gave my grandson some of my coffee. (He loved it)

Taking Jai to his first real job's Christmas Party and laughing with him when he brought home a Scooby Doo Chia Pet.

Baking with Davy. He's very creative in his choices...

Oh, and those LOST marathons...

I'm sure more will follow, but for now, I'm sure everyone will see a pattern. Family, Friends, and lots of love.

Summer
Dec 24, 2006, 11:08 AM
Wow, you guys have the right idea. All the years I used to make myself CRAZY trying to have the perfect Christmas, having everyone spend the entire holiday at my house and spending, spending, spending to get everyone everything they wanted or even didn't want. By the time Christmas Eve came around I was exhausted, cranky and wondering why I was the only one doing this. (I think its called co-dependant). A few years ago I started to detach since it was just me and husband here for awhile. I am actually returning to the thought of the real reason for Christmas. Everything became so much simpler. This year am only buying one gift per person and enjoying Christmas the way it makes me happy, no fuss, just enjoying the holiday simply. Also, this year I gave more to the unfortunate than I ever have before and it made me very happy. One thing I love about the Forums members is they are a very giving, unselfish group. Every year it gets simpler for me and every year I become more happier. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif Hope you all have a great Christmas.

CatdaBrat
Dec 26, 2006, 06:05 AM
Reading your posts made me smile all the way inside. Thanks...there's hope after all.

BGW
Dec 26, 2006, 09:02 AM
I have way more Christmas Spirit than normal this year, but I noticed it was centered around spending time with friends, trying out new recipes in the kitchen, and creating handmade gifts for those on my list.

The gifts I did buy non-local were purchased in October so I didn't have to deal the with valley box store shopping.

I did decorate to the Nth degree--shoot I was still adding little touches on Christmas Eve.

I very loudly told my family way back in June to keep it simple and sweet this year, and too my surprise, they actually listened!!