What do we want

[LindaBo]

It is so simple, and i fing that men are so different....they think differently.They are eather to ///fast\\\ or not fast enought.A teacher at my work said she has been married for 40 years, and her husband came in with Birthday flowers for her.She said it has taken 30 years for him to understand, that she likes to get floweres not only when she is in the Hospital, but on special occasions.........is it we have to be more patient to get what we want? http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/sneaky.gif she was and her marriage is still thriveing after 40 years http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/applause.gif

[SheilaMae]

It's touching when a man gives you flowers or jewelry or other gifts, I guess but for me unless they're potted flowers that will stay around awhile or something I can put into the garden I'd think it totally frivolous (unless it's a boka of colors I love that made him think of me when he saw them and he told me so). Been going through months of not feeling wanted or needed by my sweetheart myself and it's not just any one single thing missing or undesireable thing done but you know what I finally was able to put into words succinctly? Simply put, it's that no matter what I think we just need to feel that we are the desire of our beloved's heart.

Linda - have you ever read the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Smalley? It's important for everyone, I think, to know what 'language' they speak and what language communicates to them and understand what language the significant others (siblings, parents, children, spouses and sweethearts, friends and co-workers even) speak and receive best. For example - I respond to and need words of praise and recognition/acknowledgement to feel loved but my mother is impossible to please and could hardly EVER tell me I'd done anything well or good enough even though I was an over achiever in school and most active in my graduating class. Creative as I am - I MUST have enthusiasm from others to feel what I'm doing is even worth the time. Perhaps you just aren't speaking the same language as the men you've met before or they aren't speaking yours....just a thought.

[LindaBo]

SheilaMae- thanks you have a point, i wrote that book down and i well look into getting it...i sound like you a lot.i count on things and they don,t happen, i get disapointed and it hurts me, and i love and i don,t get loved back...i have been there, it is so hard to figure it all out.....i,m just trying too, i guess i don,t know how to play the GAME OF LIFE YET Linda http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/no.gif

[High_Roller]

This subject got me thinking. What would be a good test to see if a relationship that seems serious is the real thing or not?
If a person thinks they've found the love of their life, their soulmate, yet they allow somebody else to lead them astray, then it's clear their top priority is catering to their own desires, even if it's a one-time fling. That is not the kind of commitment or morals that make for a truly spiritual relationship.
It's easy to say you're sorry for something when you've already done it, but where was your conscience when you were deciding whether or not to do it in the first place? The decisions one makes right at THAT time reflect your true self.
When you care more for your partner than you do for yourself, then you really have something special and lasting.
In keeping with the title of this thread, I guess I am saying that what I would want is somebody who has the purity of heart to inspire that same quality in myself.

[BGW]

I think Jeff Foxworthy expalins how men think the best. He claims that at any given moment a guy is thinking about beer, beef, and naked women and preferably all in the same room!!

[beautiful_mess38]

I don't remember what magazine I was reading. But there was an article and interviews on "old" women. I'm talking 97 to 106. They interview each woman on her life and her longevity on life. I remember this one women saying "Make sure your husband loves you more then you love him"

[Yosemite_Wolf]

Originally posted by bgirlsworld:
I think Jeff Foxworthy expalins how men think the best. He claims that at any given moment a guy is thinking about beer, beef, and naked women and preferably all in the same room!!

Yeah.. that about says it!!
I just wanna be left alone!

[Yosemite Joy]

Appreciation and conversation.