What kind of parent are you?

[~Radiance~]

[Mysteefied]

This is interesting, becuase I actually think about this alot. I am mostly strict, because I know how I was growing up and my mother had other things on her mind. SO, I got into messy situation that I NEVER want my girls to get into. However, there ARE days when I feel I can let up the rains a bit, and let them do things like walk to town (in a group) and go off without me, for the most part, I am probably I am nervous, because of the news and everything, I worry constantly that someone, somewhere is going to hurt them in some way, and I know that is a terrible way to be, so I really try hard not to worry so much. I was told by someone once that because I have 3 daughters, statistics say one with be gay, one will be molested and one will become a drug attict. I think that's ****! I am teaching them morals and hope that the things I say, while right now they reject, later they will embrace.
Hoping off the soapbox.
~PEACE~

[Yosemite Joy]

I practise "attachment parenting".. I carry the babies when they are little all over the place (good excerise too hehe).. but now that my daughter is five, and my son is three, I try to teach them to be independant people (like me).
I teach them manners, in fact I am quite crazy about manners. I try to instill strong willed qualities in my children (though that bites back sometimes) because they need it. If I didn't have my will, and my independence I would still be in a crap situation. I want my children to know that they are special, the only person who is them, and that they are loved. I think that if your children can see and feel the love and acceptance for who they are the rest will fall into place.

[jakobscalpel]

Another attachment parent up here!!! Whoo hoo!! Please let me know if you ever want to meet at the park or anything. My wife has been looking for other attachment parenting families, trying to start a little playgroup. We have a 4 yr old boy and 2 yr old girl.

Originally posted by Yosemite Joy:
I practise "attachment parenting".. I carry the babies when they are little all over the place (good excerise too hehe).. but now that my daughter is five, and my son is three, I try to teach them to be independant people (like me).
I teach them manners, in fact I am quite crazy about manners. I try to instill strong willed qualities in my children (though that bites back sometimes) because they need it. If I didn't have my will, and my independence I would still be in a crap situation. I want my children to know that they are special, the only person who is them, and that they are loved. I think that if your children can see and feel the love and acceptance for who they are the rest will fall into place.

[Mysteefied]

OK, I'll bite, what is in attachment parent? http://oakhurstforums.com/icon/confused.gif

[Yosemite Joy]

Attachment parenting.. I think that Dr William Sears "coined" the phrase. It involves a few things.. excuse me if I get long-winded here..

It involves, but not always completely, breastfeeding, holding/carrying babe a lot, positive parenting (instead of over the top strict rules-- ie, putting baby down to cry to sleep).

Umm.. he lists in his book "Attachment Parenting" the seven "B's"
-Birth Bonding (not letting the nurses, docs rush baby away, no meds on the eyes, etc)
-Breastfeeding
-Babywearing (I use a sling, but some people just hold their baby a lot)
-Bedding close to baby (all three of my children slept in bed with me as babies, easier for everyone)
-Belief in Baby's Cry (babies aren't capable of being "spoiled")
-Balance and boundaries
-Beware of Baby "Trainers" (crying baby to sleep, alloted time for feedings, etc)


Anyway, that is only the beginning, as the children grow older, the attachment parenting situation changes. I don't breastfeed my pre-schooler and kindergardener.. but I do my 3 month old. I try to give good guidance and I do have a almost "strict" routine for my children (they thrive on it). I don't know how my children will turn out as adults.. but I did what I felt was right as newborns to today.

With my first child, my daughter, I was told by many co-workers (Navy) that breastfeeding at 6 months was "wrong" and co-sleeping was "wrong" and so I read a book about getting baby to sleep. I let her cry it out for about 2 hours before I said to myself, "This is insane!" I was crying, she was crying and I KNEW that was wrong. Then a friend of mine gave me a Dr Sears book, and I never went back to the "trainers"...

Told you I would get long-winded..

/soapbox

And jakobscalpel I would love to go to the park sometime to let the kiddies play.. I have another friend who practises attachment parenting too..

[~Radiance~]

Originally posted by Yosemite Joy:
Attachment parenting.. I think that Dr William Sears "coined" the phrase. It involves a few things.. excuse me if I get long-winded here..

It involves, but not always completely, breastfeeding, holding/carrying babe a lot, positive parenting (instead of over the top strict rules-- ie, putting baby down to cry to sleep).

Umm.. he lists in his book "Attachment Parenting" the seven "B's"
-Birth Bonding (not letting the nurses, docs rush baby away, no meds on the eyes, etc)
-Breastfeeding
-Babywearing (I use a sling, but some people just hold their baby a lot)
-Bedding close to baby (all three of my children slept in bed with me as babies, easier for everyone)
-Belief in Baby's Cry (babies aren't capable of being "spoiled")
-Balance and boundaries
-Beware of Baby "Trainers" (crying baby to sleep, alloted time for feedings, etc)


Anyway, that is only the beginning, as the children grow older, the attachment parenting situation changes. I don't breastfeed my pre-schooler and kindergardener.. but I do my 3 month old. I try to give good guidance and I do have a almost "strict" routine for my children (they thrive on it). I don't know how my children will turn out as adults.. but I did what I felt was right as newborns to today.

With my first child, my daughter, I was told by many co-workers (Navy) that breastfeeding at 6 months was "wrong" and co-sleeping was "wrong" and so I read a book about getting baby to sleep. I let her cry it out for about 2 hours before I said to myself, "This is insane!" I was crying, she was crying and I KNEW that was wrong. Then a friend of mine gave me a Dr Sears book, and I never went back to the "trainers"...

Told you I would get long-winded..

/soapbox

And jakobscalpel I would love to go to the park sometime to let the kiddies play.. I have another friend who practises attachment parenting too..

I had no idea what an attachment parent was. Thank you YJ. It explains ME!

[Californee Girl]

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[Yosemite Joy]

I think that whatever works for you, and your child is best. My children need schedules, for eating, playing, sleeping. I tried to be lax with it, but they were either overtired, underslept, or whatnot. So now we have a fun, and adjusted (to their ages, and the days) schedule, that works for everyone.

[Yosemite Joy]

You can have as many or as few children as you want. My mindset is I want 4 children, maybe a 5th sometime in the late future.

To each their own Californee, and I can't believe someone would "fault" you for only having one. One child, three children, a half-dozen, they are not equal in amount, but equal in people, little ones, who need the same amount of love, attention, and parents.

[Yosemite Joy]

I guess I should of quoted you before you deleted your post. http://oakhurstforums.com/icon/wiseguy.gif

[Californee Girl]

Sorry, had to reword all that.

I didnt mean that as directed at ya YJ. Im talking the uber strict parents who seem to have lost all compassion at birth. The militant families, know what I mean?

I think that as long as youre doing what works for you then youre doing an awesome job.