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beautiful_mess38
Jan 18, 2006, 07:46 AM
My Worth
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question "What kind o f man are you looking for?" She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking "Do you really want to know?" Reluctantly, he said, "Yes." She began to expound... As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?" The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money.
I need something more." I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life." He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain. She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man." I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked... believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect.
In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, "You're asking a lot." She replied, "I'm worth a lot."
beautiful_mess38
Jan 18, 2006, 07:46 AM
My Worth
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question "What kind o f man are you looking for?" She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking "Do you really want to know?" Reluctantly, he said, "Yes." She began to expound... As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?" The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money.
I need something more." I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life." He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain. She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man." I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked... believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect.
In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, "You're asking a lot." She replied, "I'm worth a lot."
Chem101
Jan 18, 2006, 02:17 PM
Ask a man what he's looking for and he'll answer "Food and sex" ..... Guess a man isn't worth as much......
Coldwolf
Jan 18, 2006, 03:47 PM
I would respond to that woman.
I'm not striving for perfection. Finding perfection is the end of life. I'm striving to find life and to live it fully.
In business, there is no perfection. I have strived to help people while still making a profit. There is a balance, but never perfection.
Spiritually, I have strived to attain knowledge, of myself, and of the creator, if it exists. To know tolerence of others that are on another stage of that journey.
Mentally, I don't strive for perfection, because I am not the god I haven't yet found. I only want to advance, and understand more.
Financially, is the least significant. I work hard for what I earn, because I choose not to have some of the jobs I have been offered. I could earn more, with far less work. I have made a choice. I have my reasons.
Submissive? Oh, please don't think I want a woman who is submissive to me. I would like a woman that isn't afraid to ask for my help in areas she needs help in, but likewise won't degrade me for asking her help in areas she is better in. And if neither of us is proficient in an area, we will look for help together.
But don't offer me your submission.
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">"You're asking a lot." She replied, "I'm worth a lot." </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
Yes you are.
So am I.
Don't denigrate my worth. It is not less than yours.
Chem101
Jan 18, 2006, 06:21 PM
Very well said Coldwolf.
terrastar
Jan 21, 2006, 08:14 AM
Yeah. Umm...this post read nicely, but it doesn't fit, somehow. I am worth a lot, but I'm also a pain and a half to put up with. A relationship is about a partnership...that's how I feel anyhow. Of course women these days can take care of themselves...but it's about sharing yourself with your partner.
Another thing that most people don't consider, that I think is still very important is this...a man has a NEED to take care of a woman, and a woman has a NEED to be taken care of. It's as old as history, but does that make it old fashioned and out of date? I don't think so.
You may disagree with me...but I am not trying to reinforce the stereotype of a man who "brings home the bacon" and a woman who keeps house. I just feel that without bringing something to the relationship, the man will feel inadequate, and the woman will feel devalued. It's necessary...stereotype or not.
I understand what I mean, but may not have expressed it well. If you disagree with me, please just say so, but don't flame me, ok? Maybe I can clarify my meaning.
LindaBo
Jan 21, 2006, 06:58 PM
I am dateing my self! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif---I don,t NEED a Man, i seem to be able to handle EVERY thing my self http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/worried.gif....I want a man like me, I don,t understand why i would be attractive to any one different http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/worried.gif and they say , that is what we are attractive to? http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/annoyed.gif I DON,T THINK SO
Keith
Jan 21, 2006, 08:52 PM
My Worth;
To stand along side my equal with the wind at our backs ,and flow together, forward as one http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/wiseguy.gif
Californee Girl
Jan 22, 2006, 01:39 PM
no wonder shes single http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/laugh.gif
LindaBo
Jan 22, 2006, 03:31 PM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Californee Girl:
no wonder shes single http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/laugh.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>......You got that right! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/eusa_dance.gif
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