why do guys lie? [Archive] - Yosemite Area Forums

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 07:15 PM

i dont understand it

IF i say I dont want to talk to you anymore- why call me with a b/s story of i left something at your house

if i say i want nothing to do with you- why try and throw my kids feelings in the midle of it hell they met you one time they werent thrilled by you and have never mentioned your name

why lie and say u dont care when you do? why not be honest say it hurt your feelings that i dont want you or that i dont want to talk to you? i dont get it? why do men lie?

kellieflan

Nov 10, 2008, 07:17 PM

Because they can.

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 07:20 PM

My boyfriend lies all the time, I just get used to it. He gives me a lot of money so I don't care about the lies it gets funny sometimes.

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 07:22 PM

my boyfriend lies all the time I just get used to it.

i refuse to get used to it!!!!!!!!!!!

i hate liars i hate cheaters and i will never put up with it.. i just want him to leave me alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yosemite Joy

Nov 10, 2008, 07:29 PM

My boyfriend lies all the time, I just get used to it. He gives me a lot of money so I don't care about the lies it gets funny sometimes.

You aren't serious.

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 07:30 PM

You aren't serious.

thats what i was thinking

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 07:30 PM

Yes, it's true. He acts like a compulsive liar sometimes. I think it might be a sickness. He used to lie to me and told me he was visiting his sick grandma out of town in Santa Barbara until I found out she really passed away. So he was lying for a few years about that one pretending she was alive.

Sandman

Nov 10, 2008, 07:32 PM

My boyfriend lies all the time, I just get used to it. He gives me a lot of money so I don't care about the lies it gets funny sometimes.

:greedy: is more important than :loveeyes: ???

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 07:33 PM

i just want to find someone that will love ME for me not what i have or what i dont have or anything like that.. living in these mountains sucks sometimes are guy selection is poor

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 07:36 PM

Don't give up. I haven't loved anyone for a long time because I don't want to get hurt anymore. My first marriage the guy only wanted a green card I found out later on and then got the divorce.

Sandman

Nov 10, 2008, 07:39 PM

You know, guys can say the same about girls. I have had girls lie to me and the selection of women up here is pretty minimal. The thing most important to me is trust and, besides a few close friends, I have yet to find a girl up here that is trustworthy and worth the effort of a relationship. I plan to relocate a city girl that wants to live in the hills. :)

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 07:41 PM

Yosemite Joy

Nov 10, 2008, 07:44 PM

It's difficult. When I left the ex up in the city and moved back here, I just buried myself in work, school and raising two little children. I found my husband accidentally.

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 07:45 PM

I found my boyfriend out of the phone book.

Yosemite Joy

Nov 10, 2008, 07:48 PM

I found my boyfriend out of the phone book.

Randomly chosen or listed under Rich, lying boyfriend?

Sandman

Nov 10, 2008, 07:48 PM

I found my boyfriend out of the phone book.

:lol: Really? You just picked a random page? I could try that, but the chances are that I'll end up picking someone I already know. :rofl:

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 07:50 PM

well maybe i should try LOL i have no luck up here i always get the lying drug addicted wich i am not! cheaters were are the decent men?

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 07:51 PM

Yes I opened the page randomly in the white pages. I was feeling wild and crazy that day so I called and talked to him and we met later on. We've known each other for years. He is a nice guy just has a lying problem. It's okay no one is perfect.

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 07:53 PM

Sandman

Nov 10, 2008, 07:55 PM

ok thats just creepy and wierd i've heard of prank calling but not looking for love in the white pages!

:rofl: Too funny. Perhaps I need to change my number from private to listed in the phone book. The love of my life may be looking for me in the white pages. :rofl:

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 07:57 PM

me too...oh wait i should just start handing it out to random people LMAO anyone for the taking?

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 07:57 PM

I was young at the time only like 16 years old. He was 20. He's been very good to me over the years. I treated him bad and left him many times and he always takes me back. I don't regret anything. I'm glad I called him out of the phone book.

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 07:58 PM

can i be nosey and ask what were your real intentions on calling for was it really looking for a boyfriend?

Sandman

Nov 10, 2008, 07:59 PM

16... woah, I don't need to go to jail. Now I'm thinking I am better off unlisted.

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 08:01 PM

I was just looking for someone to talk to that day.

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 08:02 PM

oh wow i should start looking through the phone book anyone got one i can borrow?

Sandman

Nov 10, 2008, 08:03 PM

www.bigbook.com

Let me know how it works out for you.

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 08:04 PM

www.bigbook.com

Let me know how it works out for you.

aww but your not listed LMAO

i am not really trying this

what would i really look like doing this..no thanks

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 08:04 PM

I was just a teenager at the time. I don't call people out of the phone book anymore for that reason. You didn't do anything wild and crazy when you were a teenager? He didn't actually become my "boyfriend" until years later. That was 15 years ago.

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 08:07 PM

i did alot of wild and crazy things as a teen but i can honestly say i never looked in the phone book for a boyfriend.. i give you props on that one

Sandman

Nov 10, 2008, 08:08 PM

aww but your not listed LMAO

i am not really trying this

what would i really look like doing this..no thanks

No need for a phone book to get my number. My cell is at the bottom of every page on this website. I gotta say though, I have bad luck with the women I have dated from this website. Not sure if I could bring myself down that road again... :lol:

Got a MySpace? :rofl:

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 08:09 PM

No need for a phone book to get my number. My cell is at the bottom of every page on this website. I gotta say though, I have bad luck with the women I have dated from this website. Not sure if I could bring myself down that road again... :lol:

Got a MySpace? :rofl:

i do have a myspace but its private so ya have to add me well my pictures are private LOL

www.myspace.com/lilmom212

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 08:11 PM

i did alot of wild and crazy things as a teen but i can honestly say i never looked in the phone book for a boyfriend.. i give you props on that one

Him and I only became friends in the beginning. He is my current boyfriend now and I was just stating how I met him. We've known each other for 15 years.

Sandman

Nov 10, 2008, 08:13 PM

i do have a myspace but its private so ya have to add me well my pictures are private LOL

www.myspace.com/lilmom212 (http://www.myspace.com/lilmom212)

I hate to break it to you, but your profile and pics are not private on MySpace. Or perhaps I can see them since I'm a MySpace Moderator. :lol:

You are very pretty. ;)

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 08:13 PM

I have myspace too

http://www.myspace.com/dawn_loves_her_yellow_car

my profile is public but you get a lot of spam that way

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 08:16 PM

I hate to break it to you, but your profile and pics are not private on MySpace. Or perhaps I can see them since I'm a MySpace Moderator. :lol:

You are very pretty. ;)

well thank you very much all though i dont see myself as VERY pretty

oh wait i forgot i unblocked them ALL SO MY FRIEND COULD SEE THEM WITHOUT MAKING A MYSPACE..

BooBooBear

Nov 10, 2008, 08:18 PM

see that sucks because i am honest very trustworthy self sufficent independent a good mom i work hard. i pay my bills i have my own place i odnt feel the need to lie.. and i always get stuck with losers.

they need to have a singles group up here for the younger crowd.

Ditto... I sometimes think that men are intimidated by a women who won't be walked all over. I have a 3 strike rule...Get caught in a lie...strike 1, Don't show up for a date and leave me waiting...strike 2, you get the picture. Find out you're out tramping around on me that's an instant Game Over!!

It's very difficult to find other singles up here. I used to love to go play pool/billards, go bowling, go to the movies, go to dinner etc. I've been up here for years and haven't figured out where in the world do people meet people up here?

Maybe we should start a Singles Group (Yosemite Area Singles) what do you think Sandman?? We would at least have a place for us to throw out ideas to meet maybe for dinner once a month, or go to the movies then dinner. Now I just stay home for the most part with my critters. They love me unconditionally so I'm not complaining but they are lacking in the conversation department LOL!! It would be a great way not only to possibly meet someone special but also to meet others on this site.

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 08:20 PM

Sounds like a lot of fun! Love the idea.

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 08:21 PM

i agree a singles group maybe then i could meet someone that appreciates me and everything i do.. just like i would them.
besides movies at hoem alone are getting boring

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 08:22 PM

Ditto... I sometimes think that men are intimidated by a women who won't be walked all over. I have a 3 strike rule...Get caught in a lie...strike 1, Don't show up for a date and leave me waiting...strike 2, you get the picture. Find out you're out tramping around on me that's an instant Game Over!!

It's very difficult to find other singles up here. I used to love to go play pool/billards, go bowling, go to the movies, go to dinner etc. I've been up here for years and haven't figured out where in the world do people meet people up here?

Maybe we should start a Singles Group (Yosemite Area Singles) what do you think Sandman?? We would at least have a place for us to throw out ideas to meet maybe for dinner once a month, or go to the movies then dinner. Now I just stay home for the most part with my critters. They love me unconditionally so I'm not complaining but they are lacking in the conversation department LOL!! It would be a great way not only to possibly meet someone special but also to meet others on this site.

i've been here since i was one moved away for a couple years and still havent met anyone here..i've always had luck in big cities just not up here..i cant seem to find a winner

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 08:23 PM

I used to know a girl that would interview the guy asking several questions before she would even agree to go on a date with him.

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 08:26 PM

That might be the best place? I've never been to a bar.

Sandman

Nov 10, 2008, 08:29 PM

I met my husband the old fashioned way... in a bar.

Yeah, that hasn't been working so hot for me int his town. It seems that most of the girls at the bar just want to find someone to take them home for the night. After I see them leave with two, three different guys, I don't even consider them anymore. Small towns suck for dating.

I'm just sayin'. That's not my cup of tea.

It's different in the city though. I have met some great people in city bars. In fact, I plan to head up to San Francisco for Thanksgiving. Perhaps I'll meet someone new and interesting....

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 08:30 PM

Yeah, that hasn't been working so hot for me int his town. It seems that most of the girls at the bar just want to find someone to take them home for the night. After I see them leave with two, three different guys, I don't even consider them anymore. Small towns suck for dating.

I'm just sayin'. That's not my cup of tea.

It's different in the city though. I have met some great people in city bars. In fact, I plan to head up to San Francisco for Thanksgiving. Perhaps I'll meet someone new and interesting....

maybe i should join ya LOL

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 08:31 PM

I've never been to a bar. Always been afraid to go inside.

kellieflan

Nov 10, 2008, 08:34 PM

I met my husband the old fashioned way... in a bar.:sweetheart:

And... at the time, I had "sworn off men," following a relationship with one of the world's craziest, lyin'ist, cheatin'ist men (Discovery Network executive) and I had the BIGGEST PIMPLE EVER on my face - so big, for one day I wore a band-aid. Good things happen in good (low) lighting! :gorgeous::ttp:

And, I can't stand lying.

PS My daughter picked out all these crazy emoticons.

PSS: Dawn, it was a bar/restaurant and my friends (male/female) and sister were with me.

kellieflan

Nov 10, 2008, 08:45 PM

Wow who knew this would be such a hot topic? People are posting while I am still editing!

Re: the bar. At that time I was interested in people, not dating, not men.
I was working a great career and concentrating on myself, friends, family, work, gardening and not men. I have always had plenty of space between boyfriends. The bar was also a restaurant. It had dancing and my best friend (a gorgeous, quasi-macho gay man) was fronting the band. I had a lot of friends with me and had no intention of meeting, going "home" with anyone (this was Catalina on New Years Eve).

I did not give my (to be) husband my phone number, I just told him my name and figured if he was smart and it was meant to be, he would find me. He did. He called three days later and on our first date I had "date doubts," (internal dialog "Why am I doing this? I have a couch and book!") Also, he was "flooding" on our first date (pants too short). By the end of the date, I was interested, and... this is important... before the end of the first date he asked me for a second date. Very straight player. We did not even kiss for about 3-4 dates (we danced though - close!). Ah, thanks for letting me remember the memories.

Sometimes bars can be lame, for sure, and women lie just as much as men.
Sometimes lightening strikes when you least expect it. Pick your cliche - cliches abound because they're true.

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 08:50 PM

Thanks for sharing that. I always love to hear how couples first met.

dancingqueen

Nov 10, 2008, 08:53 PM

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 08:55 PM

His Mom, I don't think it matters where you are living. When the time is right you will walk into each others lives. Maybe this isn't the right time for you to meet the love of your life. You have a lot on your plate right now. When you least expect it to happen..............BUT, we want to check him out first and make sure he is good enough for you.

thanks cathy i appreciate it, i ahve always told myself the same thing when the time is rright...but gosh darnit i wanna know when that time will be LOL im gettign impatient.

Yosemite Joy

Nov 10, 2008, 09:07 PM

I've never been to a bar. Always been afraid to go inside.

That is not exactly true! We went to the casino before. Not exactly "a bar" but we went to the bar.

yosemitewriter

Nov 10, 2008, 10:16 PM

I am NOT a myspace moderator and I was able to look at them. So can everyone else.

I hate to break it to you, but your profile and pics are not private on MySpace. Or perhaps I can see them since I'm a MySpace Moderator. :lol:

You are very pretty. ;)

HIS_MOM

Nov 10, 2008, 10:18 PM

I am NOT a myspace moderator and I was able to look at them. So can everyone else.

i know i made them public view!!!!!!!!!! i have nothing to hide LOL i am me

yosemitewriter

Nov 10, 2008, 10:22 PM

That's the sensible thing to do. It saves a lot of wasted time. I'm sure guys do that as well. Down in Hollywood, I would call it a casting session :-))

I used to know a girl that would interview the guy asking several questions before she would even agree to go on a date with him.

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 10:25 PM

That is not exactly true! We went to the casino before. Not exactly "a bar" but we went to the bar.

I remember that night YJ when we went to the casino together I walked with you over to the bar for like one minute while you ordered a beer then we went back to gambling again. I don't really consider that a bar like what I'm talking about. I consider a bar something like the Oak room I have heard bad stories there. I'm afraid to go to bars like that.

yosemitewriter

Nov 10, 2008, 10:29 PM

Right on, Sandman. That's my idea as well. I'm trying to bring one up from LA who is artistic, creative, likes to read books without pictures in them, and can carry on a conversation. Surely, there must be some city girl wanting to move to the mountains. I'm still looking.

You know, guys can say the same about girls. I have had girls lie to me and the selection of women up here is pretty minimal. The thing most important to me is trust and, besides a few close friends, I have yet to find a girl up here that is trustworthy and worth the effort of a relationship. I plan to relocate a city girl that wants to live in the hills. :)

Dawn

Nov 10, 2008, 10:33 PM

It can be hard to adjust to life up here. I used to live in a lot of different big cities but I like it up here it's so much quieter and peaceful.

cattledoggiemoon

Nov 11, 2008, 07:33 AM

I know it is hard to meet quality singles up here.

But staying with someone who lies is just plain wrong. Talk about setting yourself up for a life full of lack of commitment, chaos and the lost chances of finding a genuinely loving , caring partner.

Life is too short to waste our lives with making do. We all deserve to be loved. And I think it is better to expect to be loved than accept being used or using others...

This is the philosophy I try to live by...

Love myself first, define my own self first, find my own likes and dislikes first and do the things I love.

I will find people that have similiar values and lifestyle choices because I am doing what I enjoy doing and others are there too.

I have always ended up meeting people this way.

You can't expect anyone to love you if you don't love yourself.

I am not preachy or religious but........

Imagine yourself sitting across from the spirit or god or buddah or whoever you think is the big klabooie creator of us...telling you that hey, I put you here to be loved in a huge deserving way... that love is huge.....enormous....unconditional......real...... and safe...real love is being able to trust and trust is the foundation of real love.

Do you love yourself that much? Then don't settle for anything less from others and you will find someone. Make better choices for you. People lie because you let them. Let them lie to someone else..but why do you have to stay? What's in it for you?

ok that is the one time I will get so touchy feely on this forum

but you guys need a boost... encouragement and to remember that no matter how crappy life has been to you or things have happened to and around you that you have the power to change it for the better.

If you treat yourself crappy and others too then that is the type of person you will attract.....put your self first and you will attract others who do so and expect the same...

You have to start with loving YOU...