Oakroom

[dremindrem]

tonight my husband and i went to the oakroom said hi to matt.. and continued to play pool. my husband was shot in the head and has an area where skin of the skull shows through... we have always found the oak room to be a safe place.. for my husband and i to play pool. it has been fun...but tonight what the hell happened? i got a big bruise on my eye from getting out of our stupid bed,..... that was four days ago.. and i was looking for a place that would not judge me and the oakroom it was...............then some man was telling me i needed to chalk my stick... and then he was beating the **** out of my huband who was in the bathroom ...my husband still has brain showing.... the manager lady said it was my problem to deal with and i said you know my husband was shot in the head... and she didnt care.......i thought that i had found a friendly place? all the way home john kept touching the part of the brain that was not protected...he kept syaing over and over how many guys were there to beat him up... the owners did not help us..........

please find some reason to boycott them............ never in my wildest dreams would i say that,,,,,,,,,,,,, but what my husband got was incredible.......he was shot in the head while doing a job.....

[jakobscalpel]

I couldn't stop laughing at your post. Did you know there is a story called "The Outcasts of Poker Flat" that has a character named John Oakhurst and which is set in a foothill town? The John Oakhurst character also has been shot, although he unfortunately dies from his wounds.

I'll gladly boycott the Oak Room by continuing my life long streak of never having entered the establishment. Best wishes for speedy recuperation of your bruised eye.

[dremindrem]

that is a mean post......... you have no idea what this stupid poop did there..,. he has a severve brain injury... once again he was shot in the head and neckand chest.. and now some .... has totally messed up his glasses... what to freakin do? but it is so freaking far from funny

[HIS_MOM]

why didnt you call the cops and make a police report?

[Red Mule]

The original post was not clear. Did he get shot in the head in the Oakroom or has he been walking around that way for some time?
He was attacked while in the Men's Room and all you do is complain to the manager?

I can only echo His Mom. If you have told the whole story and not left out any personal responsibility in what happened, then I can't understand why you didn't call the police.

As far as not going in to the Oakroom, that's very easy for me. I used to live nearby and the noise from that place woke me far too often. And there are better places to play pool.

[BGW]

why didnt you call the cops and make a police report?

Ditto. Also, did you take him to the hospital just for a checking over? The bar does have a legal responsibility to prevent or stop these types of events. No matter who may have been at fault. I have a friend that was beaten up and mugged in a bar parking lot (in a different town). It took a couple of years, but he sued the bar's insurance and won payment of all his hospital bills and other damages.

I use to go to the Oak Room after work quite a bit. Not any more...haven't been in many many months. I feel it is worse now than it has ever been and I have no business being there let alone putting myself at risk for incidents such as you described--JMO

[BooBooBear]

Hmmm....can't help but feel the same as the others here...except for the laughing one :(

First I'd have called the cops, second I would have called the Ambulance to check out my husband.

I also find it odd that your husband's Dr. wouldn't put some kind of protective guard on your husband's head to protect the portion of the brain that's exposed. Is it even safe to have your brain matter exposed in this cold weather? That just seems so very very odd and irresponsible of your Dr. if that's the case.

This is exactly why I stay home with my fur-babies. The insanity of the world is just to much for me to handle.

[HIS_MOM]

i personally just wanted to know how u have brain showing? you see i've seen alot in life an alot in the last couple of months being in and out of hospitals with my brother. and never have i seen a brain showing. even with very small children who have to have there skalp removed they cover them and put a helmet on them. and a gun shot wound couldnt of left a gaping hole unless it was at point blank range right? so im just wondering how this whole brain showing thing works?

and if your husbands condition was so out of control and he has a brain injury wich let me tell you i know alot about latley as we are dealing with a traumatic brain injury u would of rushed him to the closest emergency room to have his brain rechecked. you wouldn't of le tit be and came home and posted online.

whatever your reason are wich im sure you have them. but could you please clarify this brain showing for me?

[MistyM]

Considering I was the bar tender tonight- I certaining hope you can feel diferently in the morning... Your husband (injured in the past or not) was cornered in the bathroom because you had a black eye that he admitted to giving you and some men find abuse for what ever reason unacceptable. If you had not busted over the top of me to escalate the situation- I had it handled and was getting your husband out of the way- However, your attack on another patron in my bar is what caused the problem tonight. If anyone would like to boycott my bar they should know the truth to the situation first!

[MistyM]

Secondly- YOUR HUSBAND DIDNT GET BEAT UP OR EVEN TOUCHED BY ANYONE IN THE BAR TONIGHT! The only force used on ANYONE was the force used to get YOU off of another patron! (TWICE). I will GLADLY file a report if you would like me to tell them the truth!

[Sandman]

This is certainly a very unfortunate situation. I know dremindrem and her husband. They are great people. Yes, her husband has an injury. Judging and/or attacking dremindrem in this thread is not appropriate behavior and will not be permitted on this site.

In addition, I know MistyM very well. She is reasonable and will handle the situation to her best ability when she is made aware of the problem. When there is a problem at the bar, it's important to let the bartender know about it and it's important to let the bartender handle it. In other words, do not take that matter in your own hands and do not make the problem worse. Remember, MistyM was the sober person tonight and it is her bar.

From what I have read and heard (from people that witnessed the event), there may have been some misunderstanding. That happens when people drink. I was told that the bartender was handling the situation and clearing up any misunderstandings when a new confrontation was started. But really, this is all second-hand info. I left early.

With all that said, this is a situation between dremindrem and Misty. They are welcome to talk about it on this website via PM. However, none of us were there to witness this event.... so, it's really not open for discussion on the public forums.

I'm closing this topic.

[MistyM]

I want to apologize to the couple for the situation at the Oak Room last night, not because I want to have a public apology seen, but because I do not know how to get a hold of you otherwise- I have served you both several times and have always enjoyed having you in- I apologize for anyone being cornered, confronted or other in my bar and that goes for all patrons- It was not right that your husband was confronted for any reason- we all get together to yes- not be judged- and have fun. I am not asking you to come where you no longer feel safe- but I am asking that you understand your husbands safety WAS my concern, not the other way around. I understand if you do not come in again, and I can accept that, but I cant accept that you may see me as a person who stood back and did nothing to help your husband.
Sincere Regards.