Pop-Ins

[Sandman]

[Sandman]

I don't like pop-ins, myself. I even get mad at my Dad when he stops by without calling first. The other day, I woke up to my Dad in my bedroom. I was sleeping in and he let himself in. I was pretty angry. I mean, what if I was in there with a special lady or something? I know, its one thing to stop in and it's another to walk in... but even a stop in drives me nuts. I may be in the middle of working on something important, or may be taking a nap... who knows.

I do not stop by anyones house without calling. Well, the other day I was driving down my street and saw Jack outside so I asked him if he wanted to shoot pool... but thats my neighbor and I saw him outside... so I think thats okay.

Anyway, what are your thoughts on this?

[Dodgergirl]

It depends. I've had a friend stop by unannounced really early in the morning, and I woulda been upset at her had she not stopped by for help. The roads were snowed over, the plows weren't running yet (I said it was early) and she needed assistance. She did stop by again unannounced to drop off some Manzanita on my porch as a thank you.
But I'm not for the early morning neighbor who pops in for coffee...and my Mom? That wouldn't be a good idea.
I'm really happy no one has dropped by recently, I haven't been keeping myself or the house too put together. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/rolleyes2.gif

[Sandman]

I was at your house Saturday and it looked fine.

Anyway, emergencies are another story... I agree. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/yes.gif

[terrastar]

Well, I voted "no problem", but I'm not sure. The honest truth is, I'm not home enough for people to just stop by. Most likely, they'll find my empty house. Since that's the case, calling is best. BUT...I mostly don't mind when people drop in.

Now, as for myself, I believe in always calling first, except for cases of unusual circumstances. I think this is simply because it DOES bug people...and I've always been one of those "make 'em happy" types. I totally don't like ticking people off.

[BGW]

I checked the "You had better call before coming over" option as every now and then is interpreted by the arrivee and not me.

I am a servitude to my hermitude kind of girl. I require a certain amount of undisturbed hours a day in order ti live some symbolance of a healthy happy life. I call it Only Child Syndrome.

When I am home, chances are I don't want to be bothered. When I feel I want to be bothered; I leave my cave. It's that simple.

The one that totally bugs me is the friends that call and say they are thinking about coming up for the weekend, and I say, "Cool let me know what you decide"; and the next thing I know I am suddenly forced into entertaining for the weekend....NOT! But, some how, the fact I am none too happy to see them happily standing on my door step with "we're here!" grins is my fault.

There are exceptions to the rule though. I would gladly invite the 'Prize Patrol" in if I found them on my door step!! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/lol.gif

This also holds true for my very best of friends. Mainly because I know they don't expect me to be anything other than me; good, bad, or indifferent.

Otherwise, I don't care if you are at the top of my road; I know your mother taught you some manners....call first!!

[jjcheyenne]

I don't care for pop in's. I work the night shift and I work 2 jobs. I sleep in the day time and do not like my sleep to be interupted. My friends and family know this and are really good about not just popping in. If someone does show up and I am in bed, I won't answer the door. I already know it is not someone I know. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/zzz.gif

[SheilaMae]

Originally posted by Sandman:
How funny. I read all of this after my pop-ins post. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/lol.gif I mentioned the pop-in thing after a conversation I had with a family member. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/rofl5.gif

And I hadn't read your pop-in post 'til your reply in Member Spottings, Sandman...thought from the Topic Title it was some variation of pop-tarts or somethin' you were talkin' about. tee hee...

In the case Sunday with KK and Newcomer I wouldn't have dare call on a Sunday as early as I was heading out and I had somethin' to pass along I thought KK would enjoy plus a token I hadn't ever delivered re: Christmas, which I put into my car and thought I'd swing by and see if they were home AFTER church. I don't have a cell phone to make that important - I'm gonna be in the vicinity - is it okay if I make a quick stop call...or I would have. I got caught in their garage hanging my little package on the doorknob by Newcomer who was comin' back from a lunch run...KK hadn't heard me knock.

Otherwise, between the call-ahead, getting ready to go, driving over and visit time it takes the bulk of an afternoon in time. Had I prearranged - you know me, I prolly woulda been late - so which is more rude? (talkin' 'bout manners, Miss B. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/wiseguy.gif )

And the bonus was we had nice conversation - shared tales of virtue and (in Newcomer's case) heroism, shared current creative pursuits amongst us and as a result built respect and relationship. Can't plan for that...ya know? BUT I wouldn't make a habit of it.

I do believe in hospitality myself and wish I were always ready at the drop of a hat for guests but - drop in to my house unless it's a weekend Rob is home and you'll mostly find chaos and clutter. Wish it weren't so but I just never EXPECT company and rarely have any. I'm usually involved in some creative pursuit rather than a maintenance type one and if you know me and love me you likely know that, know my house will be a mess and if it bothers ya you don't stop in... Plus, folks who know me know I rarely have heat on in Winter or AC in Summer and it's not the most comfortable place to hang here, I guess.
-Sheila

[beautiful_mess38]

I have an open door policy to my friends. One time I was on the "pot" when Wolfie popped in. I do have a friend that stops in for coffee in the morning.

it's like my Grandma said, keep your house clean you never know who will be stopping by.

[Mysteefied]

I also have an open door policy to pop ins..most of my friends know that they can stop by at any time for any reason, that goes with calling as well, if its 3am and one of my friends needs an ear, I'm there. They also know that if its a really bad time for them to be there, I will gently let them know that we will need to get together later, or give me a half hour to finish what Im doing. At which time they will usually kick back in my big chair and nap or read, or come back later.
As for my house...if your gonna pop-in, you get whatever you walk into to... clean or messy http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/laugh.gif

[Kahlua Kid]

We're ok with occasional pop-ins. They are fun! But, as SheilaMae found out, "It ain't pretty" when you catch me in my PJs, hair undone and paperwork spread all across my office floor!

Pop-in's (and phone calls for that matter) between the hours of 10:00 p.m. to 7:00 a.m. should only be in the event of an emergency! I need my beauty sleep!

[MtnBreeze]

Friends can pop in anytime....as for house..it's what it is...I prefer yard work to house cleaning and so sometimes the house is clean...sometimes not....My friends know this and don't seem to mind. If you're coming by to inspect my house stay away ...hahahahaha. As for if someone needs help, I'm ready any time day or nite if I'm around. I wouldn't like someone coming into my bedroom unannounced tho like Sandman said....but as far as dropping by to visit...I too have an open door.

[BGW]

(talkin' 'bout manners, Miss B. )


http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/rofl5.gif wanna compare lateness???? http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/rofl5.gif
and to think you were late coming to my househttp://oakhurstonline.com/icon/xxrotflmao.gif

[Goddesschyyld]

I also have an open door policy for my friends and family. They all know they can stop by at any given time. Most of my friends and family do respect the "normal hours."

I grew up in the Bay Area and had numerous family members who lived within a mile radius and we always had an open door policy. I think it kept our family close. We all used to congregate at my grandparents home.